Sunday, September 26, 2010

YAY! We Did It! We're married!!!

Sunday, September 26th was a cool and windy day in Montauk, New York. In the presence of our most amazing family and dearest friends we descended down the stairs to the ocean's edge and were married. The ceremony at 3:30pm was officiated by the honorable Judge James Ketcham, with readings by brother Timothy R. Feleppa and friend Megan Franzen. Gian Carlo Feleppa played the sitar, his own compositions, and his own variation of "Ode to Joy" as Krissy processed. The flower girls were our nieces, Janaya Marshall and Ea Feleppa. Kate Dunkle was Krissy's Maid of Honor and Alex's Best Man was his father, Richard A. Feleppa. Surrounded by 100 adults, 10 children, and close to 10 babies we exchanged personal vows and rings before the Judge announced us as husband and wife.

We want to thank everyone who came to join us and everyone who has been so supportive through this whole extraordinary rite of passage. Celebrating love and marriage with you all really meant the world to us. We love and thank you all!

Lucky for us, all of our hard work payed off and we had the best wedding weekend possible. As much as we can we will post links to give proper kudos to all our vendors who took such wonderful care of us and did such amazing work. They include: Gurney's Inn, Kleinfeld's, Paul Stuart, Rossa Cole Photography, Judge James Ketcham (ret.), Strawberry Fields, Angel Plants, Lindy's Taxi, and others. Not to mention people have asked us to post things like our vows which people thought were so touching, speeches, etc, and you can scroll down to find all of that.

From the cool beach we ascended to the sun deck for raw bar and cocktails before stepping into the Discovery Room for the dinner and dancing portion of our reception. The night was seamless and we know people partied into the wee hours of the morn. A perfect adventure for all. We'll try and get more posts up soon. For now we are still celebrating going to nearly-weds to newly weds!
Alex & Krissy Feleppa

"Oyster Love" and "The Lovely Couple" (above) both photographed by Rossa Cole Photography, with All Rights Reserved (Copyright 2010). Rossa Cole and his assistant Flo Lunn shot our wedding and they did the most fabulous job and we are still spilling through the hundreds and hundreds of pics they took! If you need a wedding photographer for NYC or The Hamptons, contact Rossa Cole.

The Ceremony: the officiant and personal vows

Our wedding was officiated by the honorable James Ketcham. A retired East Hampton town justice, Judge Ketcham was recommended to us by Ginny at Gurney's, yet another spot-on suggestion. The Judge not only had great sincerity and delivery, but his wit and sense of humor really made it a special ceremony, very "us". If others might see this and be in need of a wedding officiant out on the east end, we highly recommend James Ketcham.
As part of the ceremony we were urged by the Judge and Ginny to exchange personal vows before the ring exchange. Afterward people mentioned how touched they were, how well written they thought the vows were, and asked if we could post them. Here they are. Alex began and Krissy followed.
"I'll always remember the night we first met and the excitement in the air. We didn't know what to expect but we brought an open mind, positive attitude, a sense of self, and left a little bit to chance. The corduroy hat, the bright red ponytail, that beautiful smile coming towards me, I could never forget that.

Right from the get-go we shared everything, openly, honestly, lovingly. We've shared with each other our pasts and how we got to who we are, we always cherish the time we spend together, and we've never hesitated to share our dreams and goals for the future.

I don't remember when we first began to finish each others sentences, or read each other's mind, but somewhere in there it happened. We realized our lives have changed, our love has changed, but that excitement it's always been just as strong as ever.

Krissy, you provide me with a calmness I don't know anywhere else. When I am with you I relax, slow down and enjoy life, live in the moment, and strive to make it the best moment possible. We adventure to uncharted territory, we eat well and remember to laugh often, we have a killer soundtrack playing at all times. We are in fact perfect complements to one another.

I promise to always be true to our sense of adventure, to challenging ourselves and each other to never sit idle but to create the best life possible. We will go far and at the end of the day I vow to provide a comfy home, a sacred space for us to reflect on the day, the good and the bad, and move forward to be excited about the days to come.

I am looking forward to sharing everything that we haven't realized yet. The schemes are going to be big and impressive and genius. From camping trips with the fam to surf trips in the tropics, from buying a home to building a home, to starting our family in that home, I vow to love you and be true through it all.

There is one song that has always made me think about this day, this love, and you. The part that always gets me goes like this...

Love me like a song
Sweet as a melody
Learn all the words to me
And sing along
Find the harmony
The rhythm and the rhyme to me
On and on, all night long
Love me like a song"

"What I remember most about the night we met is the big warm hug you gave me, like I was already an old friend, and something in me melted. I felt completely at ease with you. After that first night I kept trying to convince myself that I didn't really like you that much so that if things didn't work out it wouldn't matter. But the truth was, I liked you more and more every day and, even so early on in our relationship, I could no longer imagine my life without you being a part of it. And I guess fate was on my side because we became inseparable almost instantly and when, a few weeks later, you looked at me and said, "Maybe we should be an 'us'" I knew that something good was about to begin. And before long I fell in love. And it was wonderful.

I feel like we fell in love quietly, and honestly, and sincerely. It was unlike anything I have ever experienced. There was no need for grand gestures or bold declarations because it was so true and so real. It was simple and easy. It was the two of us moving forward at the same pace intertwining our separate lives to create what has become one, very good life.

People have asked me what our secret is, how do we get along so well, and the best answer I can give them is that we balance each other. We don't strive for perfection but rather harmony. We are not two halves making a whole but two complete people whose edges seem to fit together seamlessly. We may not always see eye to eye, and we may get crabby when our bellies are empty but that's simply part of our life together, a small part that seems to pale in comparison to the fun that we have, the silliness that we find, and the love that we share.

I can't recall one specific moment when I knew that you were the man I was going to marry. I just know that at some point being without you was not an option anymore.

There is no one like you, Alex Feleppa. You are kind and warm, charming and loving. I know that you are exactly who I want to be with for the rest of my life and, as I always say, I know everything."

All photography by Rossa Cole, with All Rights Reserved (Copyright 2010).

The Ceremony: a reading by Tim

"The Art of Marriage" by Wilferd A. Peterson
(read by Tim Feleppa, brother of the groom)

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

a good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things...

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.

The Ceremony: an intro and reading by Megan

(Megan Franzen is a close friend of both the bride and groom)

I’ve known Krissy and Alex since before they knew each other, yet I did not introduce them. This is a very rare phenomenon if you’re not familiar with the NYC scene. But looking back, it’s only natural that two people this fantastic would be cosmically destined to come together. In the fall of 2003, I met Krissy when we were working in a now-defunct mid-town restaurant called Texas Texas, slinging D-quality burgers, steaks, ribs and barbeque chicken to Midwesterners and the occasional Japanese tourist. At that time Krissy was vegetarian and I was in nutrition school, studying the benefits of a plant-based diet. But everybody’s got to pay the rent. Right? Krissy and I became good friends as non-New Yorkers who both had a background in the performing arts. We shared boyfriend drama, probably drank too much and generally made the best out of a pretty seedy job.

Shortly after that, I started attending a business networking organization, called BNI. I was a member of a mid-town chapter that met weekly at 7:00am for runny scrambled eggs and bacon so greasy and limp it could easily slide off the plate. Most of the other members were at least 20 years my senior and included a hodge-podge of weird people who owned their own businesses. To my complete astonishment, one morning as I was scooping some of the breakfast goo on to my plate, I saw a guy who looked about my age. He seemed enthusiastic and friendly as we all exchanged business cards at this crack of dawn meeting. His name was Alex and he was a horticulturist. I had no idea what that meant, but since he seemed to know a lot about plants, so I assumed he was a florist. He was subbing for another member and after that, I always turned up at BNI, hoping that member would have sent Alex in his place.

Fast forward to spring of 2005. Texas Texas had kicked the bucket and I finally realized that I got more satisfaction from another hour of sleep than attending the BNI meetings. Krissy invited me to see some live music on a lazy Sunday afternoon and I was eager to see her, as her voice had a buoyancy which can only mean one thing: A boy. At some point in the afternoon, she received a call from someone who was on his way back from the island and was supposed to meet up with her at the Beer Garden. As a friend, it was my duty to pry. Sparkly-eyed, she confided that she had met a boy on MySpace. Of course, I pressed for details.

“His name is Alex.”

“OK, and what does he do?”

“He’s in school for horticulture.”

My first thought was, “there’s that weird word again” and my second thought was, “Hey, I know an Alex who’s in Horticulture. How many Alexes in horticulture can there be in this city?”

Holy moley! It was the same guy.

Since then, Krissy and Alex’s relationship reminds me of an early 80’s power ballad. It’s sweet, fun, kinda rockin’ and you always want to come back to it when you’re looking to get grounded. They’re kind, genuine people who are supportive no matter what. They work miracles in their crock pot and know how to throw a great party. They are eager to help a sister out of a jam and I have the utmost respect for their bond. I am impressed by these two beautiful people who have one very solid friendship. Their love is steadfast and unquestionable.

I wish Krissy and Alex the most amazing journey, wherever it leads them. And by the looks of it, I think there’s plenty of good stuff in store for you two crazy kids!

They gave me the honor of selecting a passage to read to you today and I think you’ll see why I thought this one was apropos to this occasion…

This is from "Captain Corelli's Mandolin" by Louis de Bernieres

"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two."

Music: Gian Carlo Feleppa

Gian Carlo Feleppa, photo by Emma Woods

Lucky for us Gian Carlo Feleppa, Alex's older brother, has a love and knowledge of music few others possess. Starting at the age of 6, Gian Carlo has over the years mastered more instruments than one can fathom. We asked Gian if he would play the sitar for us on the beach at Gurney's Inn for our wedding ceremony and lucky for us he was thrilled to accept. Gian played his own sensational compositions as people climbed down to the wedding location at the ocean's edge. Our friend Erika reflected, "as we descended the stairs to be met by the wind and the wailing of the sitar, I literally felt my consciousness rise. What a way to usher you and Krissy in!" When Krissy processed Gian played his own variation of "Ode to Joy" at Krissy's request and it was so moving and lovely, a perfect complement to Krissy's radiance. It was the best.

The Reception: the toasts

After our entrance as Alex and Krissy Feleppa into the Discovery Room at Gurney's and a little bit of dancing, we asked those closest to us if they might like to say a few words. Krissy's sister Kate Dunkle, the Maid of Honor, led the first toast to honor the happy couple.
Dick Dunkle, the father of the bride, followed and spoke entirely from the heart. By the end of his address you'd be hard pressed to find a dry eye in the place.
And on the chance that there were a few stoic mugs remaining in the crowd we asked Rich Feleppa, father of the groom and Best Man, to deliver the third and final toast. Due to the length Rich omitted some parts of it on the spot, so here it is in it's entirety. Enjoy.
"For those who don’t know me, I’m Alex’s Dad.

Those who do know me know I have a tendency to digress.

Quite honestly, a poem by Philip Schultz who lives near us in East Hampton --- about a city almost as far as you can get from here ---struck a nerve and I hope it gets these remarks off to a decent start.

Of course, I could dedicate the poem, “San Francisco Remembered,” to thank Cathy Feleppa Camenga my goddaughter who traveled all the way from San Francisco, or Uncle Whoop Bill Worth and his family from LA, family and friends from Tennessee, Minnesota, Texas, New Jersey, God knows where, in fact let’s raise a glass to all of you who made the trek, long and short, to be with our family, old and new.

Thank you. And thanks for your generous gifts.

Oh yes, “San Francisco Remembered” by Philip Schultz.

(Clear throat)

In summer the polleny light bounces off the white buildings

& you can see their spines & nerves & where the joints knot.

You’ve never seen such polleny light. The whole city shining

& the women wearing dresses so thin you could see their wing-tipped hips

& their tall silvery legs alone can knock your eye out.

But this isn’t about women. It’s about the city of blue waters

& fog so thick it wraps round your legs & leaves glistening trails

along the dark winding streets. Once I followed such a trail

& wound up beside this redheaded woman who looked up & smiled

& let me tell you you don’t see smiles like that in Jersey City.

She was wearing a black raincoat with two hundred pockets

& I wanted to put my hands in each one. But forget about her.

I was talking about the fog which steps up & taps your shoulder

like a panhandler who wants bus fare to a joint called The Paradise

& where else could this happen? On Sundays Golden Gate Park

is filled with young girls strolling the transplanted palms

& imported rhododendron beds. You should see the sunset

in their eyes & the sway, the proud sway of their young shoulders.

Believe me, it takes a day of two to recover. Or the trolleys clanking

down the steep hills – why you see legs flashing like mirrors!

Please, Lord, please let me talk about San Francisco. How

that gorilla of a bridge twists in the ocean wind & the earth

turns under your feet & at any moment the whole works can crack

& slip back into the sea like a giant being kicked off his raft

& now, if it’s all right, I would like to talk about women …

Women, without whom, we wouldn’t be here today:

Front and center, the beautiful young woman and bride Krissy for taking Alex’s hand.

Carole Good Dunkle for having Krissy.

Sue Worth Feleppa for having Alex.

Carol’s Mom: Hilda Good and Sue’s Mom: Ann Worth and on and on. Going back and back. And the young moms, Kate and her Janaya, and Jen and her Ea, taking us forward.

In fact, let’s raise a glass to all the women, all the moms and daughters here!

Words cannot describe how honored and touched I am to have been asked by my son to be his Best Man.

Notwithstanding the fact that BM means something so totally different to those of us from the Silent Generation.

Aptly put by George Burns who said, “You know you’re old when you bend over to tie your shoelace and you say to yourself, ‘What else can I do while I’m down here.’”

In fact I would like to honor the gentleman who has us all beat hands down when it comes to hanging in there! That would be Howard Good, Krissy’s grandpa, who is God Bless him 94 years of age. Along with his wife Hilda, who are one month away from celebrating their 73rd wedding anniversary. Let’s give them a rousing cheer.

The Best Man tradition they say originated with the German Goths (I’m sure my brother Ed watching over us today would heartedly agree). Also many wedding customs are thanks to the warring clans of Scotsmen (perhaps Brennie Feleppa’s Stuart Clan started it all!) during a time when the Best Man carried a weapon and not just rings to the altar because you never knew when the bride’s family would decide to take her back home. Thankfully a mute point today when I noticed Dick Dunkle walked Krissy down to the sandy beach without a firearm in his holster. Let’s raise a glass to the Feleppas and the Dunkles.

I’m most happy to say I’ve known Alex all his 33 years. Working at home most of the time allowed me to share every part of the day. I have the rare distinction of knowing Alex very, very well – except of course for his Mom Sue who knows him inside and out – and now Krissy who has a great understanding and grasp of the man we love.

We all have a lot of nicknames; unsurprisingly, Alex has had his share. Flipper, during his water polo years at Loomis Chaffee, The Legend during his tag along years with brothers Gian Carlo and Tim. And of course, Pete Mike Sam Henry George, compliments of his Mom.

Of course, my names for my son are my favorites. Rapscallion, sometimes shortened to Scal, for that tilted-head-to-the-side querying look and winning smile that started almost at infancy -– and Scalumente because an Italian name seemed appropriate for that blond haired blue-eyed little boy, new proof of the barbaric Lombard strain in we Benevento Feleppas. Sometimes my name for Alex was Alexahente, because it combined his given name with “having the right beans.”

In addition to being from the same line as Annibale Feleppa, Carlo Feleppa, and Dr. Edward Ernest Feleppa, we have another thing in common: They say that Alex looks like Leonardo DeCaprio. They used to say I resembled Wally Cox as Mr. Peepers.

You might say Alex has had a checkered cloth career. Nursed as an infant in the mud room of The Royale Fish. Babysat by waitresses, bus boys and chefs. Before long, he was hurling pizza dough in Colorado Springs, serving steamy cappuccinos in Hanover New Hampshire, and running a B&B in Half Moon Bay, California.

He’s always been on the run. Who else but Alex would get some space as a youngster by riding his bike hell-bent for election for miles on Town Lane in Amagansett?

Perhaps because he grew up out here, he knows the importance of things sensory: the squish of sand between your toes, the smell of sunrise and sunset at the ocean’s edge, the sound of the grasses, the incredibly unique patterns found in plants, and shrubs, and trees. These and more are all very important to him and in a way his best relaxation after a day well spent.

The quality of the man is multi-faceted and shows in what he does for others.

He’s most loyal! There’s no better friend for the long term. Ask Rory Knight his kindergarten chum (table 8). Or Courtney Van Leight McCarthy, his Parisian travel buddy during high school (table 12). Or McB Smith McManus, Jodie Melrose, Bob Pokorney, and Custom, fellow artists & buddies at Colorado College (also table 8).

Adventuresome too! Sure he’s traveled a lot with the family. But he was quick to find a way his own way to bike Nova Scotia, study in China, trek the mountains & sleep with the rats in Tibet.

Determined too! You absolutely had to admire his grit when he broke his hip. Alex has researched, sought, and achieved those goals that he set for himself: The Loomis Chaffee School, The Mountain School of Milton Academy, The School for International Training in China, Horticulturist Training at the New York Botanical Garden, and now Senior Zone Gardener and Coordinator of Volunteers at The Conservatory Garden in Central Park at Fifth Avenue and 105th Street. Plus his own fledgling consulting business.

On our ritualistic grammar school morning drives from Amagansett to Most Holy Trinity in East Hampton, he noticed the grass not cut, the privet not pruned. He was paying attention to things green way before Al Gore.

Diligent too. If a job had to be done, too often Alex was asked by one of us to help do it. Move the mattress from this house to that house. From that house and back to this house. Heft that furniture up the rickety stairs of the Livery Stable barn. Draw that floorplan. Unload that 40-ft container. Help Gian & Jen & Tim move into Bushwick. Learn Quick Books & set up an inventory. Do a little bookkeeping. Do a lot of bookkeeping.

Also a risk taker. Snowboarding or skiing or surfboarding for example, all skills that I have yet to master. Who else would want to climb trees several stories high for a living -- confident that some rope and a few clamps would safeguard him?

Trusting. Sending cold hard cash to Costa Rica with the belief that somewhere near the white picket fence with blue tips would be the man he doesn’t know and the house he hoped to rent.

Alex is precise. True enough, he doesn’t like to be wrong. But his carefulness stems more from his analytical and exacting nature. He actually loves knowing the Latin names for most flora.

Artistic. This is person whose toddler year drawings employed triangles, compasses, t-squares, and a French curve. His woodcuts and art installations at Colorado College added another dimension to his art. And today a Central Park Conservatory Gardens, he helps create garden planting overviews.

In this family of ours, it‘s easy to make fun of Alex because he is so straight. But it is his being there and his strength of character that we all know we can call on when needed.

Alex knows what he wants and better yet what’s good for him --caring, smart, playful, adventuresome Krissy for example.

There’s a cherry tree on Hedges Lane in Amagansett that was planted the year Alex was born. Its bark is solid, its limbs are broad, and it bears a snowstorm of happy smiling blossoms each spring.

Best of all, it is the feeling that he gives each one of us, his friends and his family, when he shares some fun, some good times, some laughs and hugs. Hopefully speaking for all of us here, it’s like you’re in the water. It feels good. You’re doing something you love. A blip in the distance a minute ago starts to swell. You push off and go like hell. You’re getting a good ride. And you look over and there he is next to you. Thrilled you both caught it.

It was Alex’s brother Gian Carlo the other day who reminded me of that great knock knock joke: Who’s there? Sam & Janet. Sam & Janet who? Sam & Janet evening you will meet a stranger, across a crowded room & somehow you’ll know.

Alex and Krissy from the first enchanted evening of your days may you have as many wonderful years together… May your love endure thru the push-pulls, the gives & takes… May you weather the ups and downs for as long as Hilda & Howard, Hank & Amy, Ann & Bud, Doc & Flo, Brennie & Ed, Jim & Katie, Carol & Al, Howie & Sue, Carolyn & Gino, and Sue and me, and so many of the couples here tonight… May you be healthy, wealthy, and wise… May you learn to cope with what life deals you… May you try desperately not to trade something that might be for something you already have… May you continue to find adventure and companionship and love… May you carve out your own special place, and if you’re really fortunate may you have bright, interesting, respectful, unique and caring children.

May you both remain as lighthearted as the bubbly white water that keeps the sand pipers skipping and playing at the water’s edge.

In the great words of Bertold Brecht: 'Here’s to the Happy Couple!'"

The Photographer: Rossa Cole Photography

"Bride Approaching" by Rossa Cole, 2010, All Rights Reserved.

For us we knew the question of wedding photography was an important one. We looked at a lot of peoples work, and in the end our choice was Rossa Cole Photography. Rossa Cole has worked as a photographer in New York City and the Hamptons for many years and has an amazing gift for capturing the moment. Rossa listened to us and our vision for the big day and was organized and full of excellent suggestions.
Rossa Cole (above) and Flo Lunn (below) shot our wedding and they did the most amazing job - we are beyond thankful. We knew they were going to do a great job but the end product totally exceeded our expectations. If you or someone you know needs to hire a photographer in or around NYC we highly recommend you contact Rossa.

ALSO, if you have been given the password you can access our wedding photos via the links below. If you forgot the password you can email Alex at

Opt for "slideshow" under the Styles pull-down menu to be sure and view all the shots. Rossa used multiple cameras so you will see his galleries are not entirely in chronological order.
(All Photography by Rossa Cole and Flo Lunn, 2010, All Rights Reserved, thanks for not stealing :-)

Flo - gallery 1 - the welcome party at the Oceanside, Sat. 9/25:

Rossa - gallery 1 - before the ceremony:

Rossa - gallery 2 - the ceremony and family formals:

Rossa - gallery 3 - the raw bar and cocktail hour:

Flo - gallery 2 - pre-ceremony, ceremony, and cocktail hour:

Rossa - gallery 4 - the first dance set and speeches:

Rossa - gallery 5 - reception, dinner, and more dancing:

Flo - gallery 3 - the reception:

Rossa - gallery 6 - the details and the night:

Rossa - final gallery - The Black & Whites

Monday, September 20, 2010

See you in less than a week!

We just got back from "trip 1" out to Montauk. Wedding Vacation 2010 is officially under way so it was time to begin loading out supplies and party favors for the big weekend. As you can see the surf from Hurricane Igor was pretty sensational, but hopefully it will calm just a little bit by the end of the week. We finalized the big day's agenda with Ginny and Zelko at Gurney's, truly the best of the best. In town we secured the taxi service to carry folks from the Oceanside and Albatross to Gurney's and back again, and got a chance to check in with Mary at Strawberry Fields to go over the beautiful bouquets she is going to make for Krissy and Kate and our precious little flower girls.
The days were sunny and warm enough for us to run around in shorts and t-shirts and be very comfortable. Off-season Montauk is a fun, casual affair so we enjoyed being able to get around town easily and even took a break from the planning to chow down on some serious burgers at The Point while catching a few minutes of the Steelers game. While Krissy was at the spa at Gurney's enjoying her wedding hair consultation I was prepping our secret work space for the end of the week where we will assemble the custom-made welcome bags and planted centerpieces. We reconnoitered and watching the sun set over the dunes we couldn't help but glow ourselves, thrilled that all this hard work and effort is going to make for such a wonderful experience.
The day ended and we retreated back to the folks house in East Hampton to get cozy in jeans and long sleeves. Over an easy dinner we talked about our magnificent hopes and minimal fears for the weekend quickly coming up. Acknowledging all the amazing love and support people have shown we came to a realization that made us all smile. Even though we know we are doing a ton to make this weekend what we want it to be (because well, that's who we are!), for us it's not about being "over the top". After my mom described all the prep work a coworker recently said, "it sounds like the makings of a truly loving family wedding". Mom said she felt like that was the best compliment and we all agreed without hesitation. Because that is really what it's all about. It's about us, and our love, and our families, and our dearest friends, and everyone together taking the time to marvel at the power of love. We can't wait to see you all very soon!

All our love,
Alex & Krissy

oh yeah, and for the latest wedding agenda info, click here. xoxo A&K

Saturday, September 18, 2010

The Weekend Agenda

(last updated: September 21st)

Thursday, September 23rd
-- Alex & Krissy and the Dunkle family make their way out to Montauk and set up camp at the Oceanside Beach Resort.

Friday, September 24th
-- Welcome bags are made available for guests after noon with local map and information about what to do in Montauk. Alex & Krissy hope to be done with major projects and free to bounce around town welcoming people for the afternoon. If you want to text or call when you get into town contact Alex at 646.330.2185 or Krissy at 646.207.1941

3:00pm - "Rehearsal Dinner" for immediate Dunkle and Feleppa families out at Gosman's Restaurant.

6:00pm on - A&K, the Dunkle and Feleppa families are around and available so don't hesitate to track us down.

Saturday, September 25th
-- Welcome bags are made available for guests with local map and information about what to do in Montauk. Alex & Krissy will be bouncing around town all day so text or call when you arrive (numbers above).

6:00pm - 10:00pm - "Welcome Party" for all wedding guests in the yard of the Oceanside Beach Resort and on the adjacent beach over the dunes. ...get acquainted, grab a bite to eat, have a beer or glass of vino, and enjoy a bonfire on the ocean. The Oceanside is walkable from other motels in the village or if driving you can park in the IGA supermarket parking lot next door to the east.

Sunday, September 26th
8:ish - 9:ish am - Morning swim and surf to start the big day off right! It will be a crisp, cool morning with surf temps in the upper 60's but that won't stop some of us from jumping in and taking a dip in the ocean to set the tone for the day. If you are brave (or crazy!) enough, you will likely find other such souls at the beach over the dunes in front of the Oceanside Beach Resort so swing on by.

2:30pm - 3:30pm - Guests should make their way to Gurney's Inn and down to the beach. Once at Gurney's you will have to climb a number of stairs down to the ocean's edge so please don't wait until the last minute to head over.
2:15pm - 3:15pm - free taxi service from the Montauk village to Gurney's provided
(A Lindy's passenger van will pick up in front of the Oceanside Beach Resort and Daunt's Albatross going to Gurney's and continue to make loops. Valet Parking at Gurney's also available.)
3:30pm - WEDDING CEREMONY! on the beach at Gurney's Inn. Recommended attire is jackets for the men and dresses for the women, but we certainly won't mind if you kick off your shoes while down on the beach.
4:00pm - 5:00pm - Cocktail Hour with passed hors d'oeuvres and raw bar on the sundeck
5:00pm - 9:00pm - Reception, dinner and dancing in the Discovery Room, all overlooking the ocean at Gurney's Inn.
9:00pm - 10:00pm - free taxi service from Gurney's back to Montauk village provided
(Lindy's passenger van will pick up at Gurney's and drop off at the Oceanside and the Albatross)
9:00pm - ??? after party at Gurney's Sea Grille or back in Montauk village at O'Murphy's Pub depending on where the party takes us!

Monday, September 27th
10:30am - 3:00pm - Open House at the Feleppa's (97 Main Street, East Hampton) if you're not quite ready to "check out". On your way out of town stop in for a little light brunch fare, maybe a last swim in the pool if you dare, and endless thanks for making it out to celebrate with us!

Tuesday, September 28th
-- Alex and Krissy and the Dunkle family pack up and depart from Montauk, slowly making their way home.

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Saturday, September 4, 2010

..from months away to days away, 22 to be exact!

It's a really breezy day, that crisp delicious air that reminds you why New York in September is so amazing. We received this beautiful card recently from the Porter's (Casey Anderson's "Dune Beach", image used by the Peconic Land Trust) and it got us even more excited about the Montauk adventure we are all going to have later this month. That's right, just a few weeks away folks! Do you believe it?!? As you can imagine the pace has really picked up. Every minute that we're not working or making sure we're staying fed and nourished to prevent crankiness has pretty much become wedding time. When describing all the stuff we are trying to pull off people tend to think that we are stressing out, but luckily we aren't at all. We have put a lot on our plates, it's true, but realistically with us we wouldn't have it any other way. Now we have gotten to the point where we are finalizing tons of things and as you can imagine it is beginning to feel very real. Another card came today, this one addressed to Mr. and Mrs. A. Feleppa. Well that's a first, and I can't deny it made me choke up a little bit.

Krissy had her second dress fitting at Kleinfeld's last week and feels fabulous about her dress and how it fits. I (of course!) haven't seen it but am sure it's the most beautiful complement to Krissy's radiance and I can't wait. Today I went to Brooks Brothers and got the final piece of my outfit and the saleswoman who helped me, Pamela, couldn't have been more sweet, blessing me as I thanked her and got out of there. We have the wedding license thanks to Terri at the town clerk's office out in East Hampton which we acquired the same day as my parents 41st wedding anniversary. Our good friend Rossa Cole is going to be our photographer and we know he is going to do a fantastic job. The final menu choices are going to Gurney's and revisiting the paperwork we breath major sighs of relief knowing we are going to be taken care of by such a professional operation. I have the centerpieces designed and they will look sensational, thanks to my amazing grower friends on Long Island and the hard working folks here in the NYC Flower District. Mary at Strawberry Fields in Montauk is going to make the bouquets for Krissy and Kate and the boutonnieres for me and the dads in exactly the style and feel we are going for so that is a wonderful help to my high horticultural standards. The ceremony is designed and the readings picked and we love that Krissy's sister Kate and my brothers Gian and Tim will all be taking part, along with our dearest friend Megan, the only person who knew both of us before we even knew each other. My mom has started planning the Saturday and Monday get togethers and though we have urged her to keep things easy on herself we know that she will undoubtedly go a little over the top. Our home here in Astoria has a project going in every room, from welcome bags in the living room to escort cards in the kitchen and to-do lists everywhere. We have put a lot of ourselves into this and we think it will really show and that makes us happy. Many of you have offered top help however you can and that means a lot, and you might very well be hearing from us. We want this experience to be the best it can be, for us and for all of you, and your support through it all has been a major godsend. A volunteer of mine at work the other day hadn't seen me in a few weeks and she jumped back in exclamation. Describing to my gang the plant combinations I was thinking about for the table tops Andrea cut in, "Alex, do you realize you are totally beaming?!?! I mean, you are a handsome guy, don't get me wrong, but today it's funny, you are absolutely BEAMING!" ...and it's true, we couldn't be busier but at the same time we couldn't be more elated. "Busy and Beaming", I guess that is going to be our theme for the month.

Well, I just wanted to give a quick update and remind you how thrilled we are to see all of you in just a few weeks time. Many of you are going to be coming and staying for a few days and we think that is great. You'll be able to enjoy going up to the docks at Gosman's or out to the Montauk Lighthouse, or just chill on the beach right in the village, close to Montauk standards like Johnny's Drive-In and O'Murphy's Pub. We can't wait to see you at the end of the month and together make Montauk our own. It is going to be a blast!
Chat with you all again soon,
xo A+K

Monday, August 9, 2010

Accommodations - Update!

Hello family and friends,

For those of you who still need to make your reservations for the end of September, here is an updated list of motels that have available rooms. These are going to go fast so we urge you to get your reservation as soon as possible!

Oceanside Beach Resort
626 Montauk Hwy
Montauk, NY 11954

**A few rooms still available. Studio efficiencies, a jacuzzi suite, queen size, and maybe a double or two. Rates start at $125.
Highly recommended. This is where we are staying so we would love for as many guests as possible to join us there. According to the manager, most of the available rooms are larger ones that sleep four people.

Daunt's Albatross Motel
44 S. Elmwood Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

**Rooms still available
Highly recommended. Reserve two nights and they offer a third night for free. They are located only a short distance from the beach. Mention the Dunkle wedding when you are reserving your room.

Born Free Motel
115 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

**Room rates are $145 for lower deck and $155 for upper deck (9 rooms still available)
Highly recommended. The woman I spoke to was very helpful and friendly. They offer some of the better rates, their rooms have a queen size bed and pull-out couch, they have a pool and they are a short walk to the beach.

Ocean Beach
108 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

**Room rates are $160 + tax (2 rooms available) and $195 + tax (only a few rooms available)
Recommended if you want to be on the beach. The less expensive rooms have an ocean view, the pricier rooms are oceanfront.

Ocean Surf Resort
84 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

**Rooms still available
We know the least about this hotel and the woman I spoke to did not offer any additional information regarding the rooms that are still available.

Sole East Beach is fully booked and Gurney's Inn still has a few rooms available for Sunday night only but they have a conference coming in that weekend so those rooms will disappear quickly. For other accommodations go to the Montauk Chamber of Commerce website.

The time is just flying by, see you in September!

Friday, July 23, 2010

Two months and so much to do!

This Monday is the 26th...two months until our wedding! Every spare moment is devoted to planning and shopping and organizing. We have lists, and lists of lists. Happily, we have solved the wedding clothes and shoes, flower girl dresses, and wedding rings. The centerpieces and table decorations are underway. Boxes, bags and packages are quickly taking over every open space in our apartment and I think it's safe to say that, for the next two months, this is officially wedding central.

This past weekend we attended another Feleppa wedding. The wedding itself was fantastic, it was great to see everyone, and it just made us all the more excited for our own wedding. We were mentally taking notes the entire time. We are really happy that everyone is gearing up for Montauk in September, because we are too!

And speaking of Montauk....

....just a reminder to all, if you are calling to make your room reservations at Oceanside Beach Resort, Daunt's Albatross Motel, or Gurney's Inn, please remember to mention the Dunkle/Feleppa wedding. As always, if you have any questions you can email Alex at or Krissy at

We truly cannot wait to see everyone this September, it's going to be a great time and we are looking forward to every moment. See you in September!

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Reminder: Send Your Response Cards!

Hello beautiful friends and family,

We have already gotten a bunch of response cards in the mail and it's really exciting. When we sent out the invites I don't think either of us realized how thrilling it is to arrive home and check the mailbox to see who else is coming and celebrating with us in September. A number of you have also given us verbal confirmations that you will be able to make it and for those of you for whom that is the case we do want to ask that you please send your RSVP cards. They are a great help to us as we finalize numbers and do the seating chart, etc, etc. Of course you have until August 15th to RSVP so no pressure if you are still trying to figure out your Montauk adventure, but if you know you can make it we would love for you to throw that little card back in the mail to us.

Wedding planning is continuing to go really well. We're forming the ceremony and finalizing the different parts of our outfits. The music playlists are coming along and the only challenge is how to fit all these favorite dance tunes into such a finite amount of time. Who knew that would be one of the toughest challenges!?!? Our fabulous photographer friend Rossa Cole is going to shoot the wedding which we couldn't be happier about. Other ideas and silly schemes are coming to fruition and it is all feeling really wonderful.

Chat with you all again soon,
and Thanks!

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Three months!

On June 26th we hit the three month mark, and the weekend before we hit Montauk and Gurney's Inn!

We took Father's Day weekend off to get out of the city, visit with family and touch base with our wedding coordinator, Ginny. We always look forward to seeing her because she is so enthusiastic about our wedding, and so helpful with ideas and tips. We also sat down with Judge James Ketcham, who will be officiating our wedding on the beach. A retired judge with a quick wit, he kept us laughing throughout the meeting. But it was easy to see that, just like the staff at Gurney's, he takes his job seriously. We are sure he will do a wonderful job performing our ceremony. Before we parted ways with Ginny we met Jon, another wedding coordinator, and then headed down to the beach bar to sample their drink of the day, the tangerine cosmopolitan.
On the beach we met a few more staff members, including executive chef Angelo "Chip" Monte, Jr. and general manager Paul Monte. Everyone was relaxed and friendly, and only made it more obvious that we picked a great place to have our wedding.

The weather was beautiful and suggestive of what we may have in September, but even if it's hot and humid or cool and rainy we know that it will be fabulous.

After our tangerine cosmos we wandered the many decks and wooden walkways surrounded by plants and shrubs that give Gurney's a hidden feeling as if it simply sprung up in the midst of these seaside cliffs. Our last stop was at The Sea Grille where we toasted with a couple of glasses of Prosecco while sampling some of their amazing clams and oysters on the half shell, mussels in white wine broth, and tuna carpaccio.

It was so beautiful and relaxing it made us excited for the fun we will have in September with all our family and friends around us.

The rest of the weekend was spent relaxing at the Feleppa house in East Hampton, eating more delicious food and laying around on the beach. With one more task on our To Do list before the weekend was over, we headed back into the city on Monday morning. Once we were home, unpacked and showered it was time to hop on the subway and hit the diamond district in search of our wedding rings. We had already done some preliminary shopping in SoHo but now it was time to get down to business (and bargaining). A few friends had made some suggestions so we knew where we planned on looking but after our first stop we decided to go see Jonro Jewelers, a couple that had been very helpful when Alex was shopping for engagement rings and other sparkly things.

They immediately remembered Alex and as we chatted they showed us some of their beautiful handiwork. Jon and Rochelle are both knowledgeable and opinionated, and they offer some great quality pieces. Before we knew it we had found two rings that were absolutely perfect and within our budget. We took a deep breath, said "let's go for it" and now are eagerly awaiting our finished rings. You'll just have to wait until the wedding for any more details.

Needless to say, wedding planning is in high gear and I'm pretty sure the next three months are going to fly by. It's going to be a busy and exciting summer!

Saturday, June 26, 2010

The Question of Beach Wedding Attire

A few people have asked what is appropriate beach wedding attire and that's a good question.

We definitely want people to be comfortable but we don't want people to err on the side of being too casual. Montauk is by nature a casual town, but Gurney's is a top-notch resort so we want people to dress for the occasion. Immediate family will be in some sharp looking suits and fancy dresses. For the gents we suggest a suit or jacket and dresses for the ladies, open to your own interpretation of course. Shy away from shorts, jeans are not acceptable, and opt for button-downs over polo shirts. There will be an ocean breeze and temps in the upper 60's so no one should be too warm. Rest assured that ladies will want to bring a light wrap or cover-up for later in the evening. The ceremony itself will be right on the beach so if you want to kick off your shoes that is just fine. After the ceremony you will climb stairs to the sun deck for the cocktail hour and then enjoy dinner and dancing within the big ballroom so you will need comfy dress shoes for that. We will be at Gurney's until 9:00pm at least and the temperature will definitely drop after the sun sets. Montauk evenings are breezy and cool, especially if you want to go back down to the water's edge for some fresh air.

As far as what to bring for the rest of your time in Montauk we tend to bring a lot of layers. Tourism aside Montauk is a low key, casual fishing town. Locals and weekenders alike will tell you that Montauk is not "The Hamptons", it's less pretentious and a bit more honky tonk. Days will be warm and the ocean temp will still be tolerable so not a bad idea to bring your bathing suits. We figure it will still be shorts and T-shirt weather but it's always worth checking the forecast as it can be variable out there. In case of some showers or overcast days a light windbreaker or waterproof jacket can be really good to have. Nights can get cool enough that you will need a pair of jeans or long pants, and a cozy sweater or sweatshirt. Most restaurants are casual, some more like dress casual, so not a big deal if you want to go out on the town.

Hope this helps.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

And They're Off!

As you know by now the wedding invites are out! Since we are asking people to trek all the way out to Montauk with us and also make the trip during a popular time of year we wanted to jump the gun a little bit and get the invites out earlier than the typical two to three months before the wedding date. And thank you all for the great compliments to the design and elements we opted to go with. Friends and family have mentioned different aspects of the invite that they like especially and that certainly puts a big smile on our faces. They were a bit of work but we too were really happy with how they came out. And for those people that are checking this website out because you are planning your own wedding we wanted to do this quick post to recommend the DIY wedding invites. If you have a computer and a decent printer and are willing to do the design work yourself they are a great, less expensive option to consider. Krissy found LCI Paper and on their website we picked out a few samples that appealed to us. When we got them we created Word documents the same size as the samples and experimented with fonts and format, wording, etc. Ultimately we picked the design we liked best, printed a test run on the sample, and pleased we realized we could produce our own invites at home for significantly less than a paper or print shop would charge. We ordered enough material to compensate for the inevitable learning curve - for us we bought 100 pieces of everything and ended up with about 75 complete invites, which was enough for our needs. The paper was less than $300 and the only other expenses were pens, a roll of double-sided tape, an extra black ink cartridge, and postage. Going another route we could have easily spent twice as much. It definitely took patience and a little Do-It-Yourself creativity but for us it was the perfect option, and the perfect compliment to the comfortable and personal wedding we intend to have.
...and the response cards have already begun to roll in - amazing!
Hope you are as excited as we are!
Alex & Krissy

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

The Wedding Date: Sunday, September 26, 2010

It is true, due to a few events out of our control the wedding date has been changed. We are going to be married on the beach in Montauk at Gurney's Inn the afternoon of Sunday, September 26th, 2010. Following the oceanfront ceremony there will be cocktails, dinner, and dancing, all at Gurney's amazing facility right on the water and only a couple miles from Montauk village. There will also be a Saturday evening welcome party in the village of Montauk as well as a thank you open house at the Feleppa's in East Hampton on Monday so we hope very much you come out for a number of days if you can. Accommodations info, the complete wedding agenda, and much more will be posted here so keep checking in with us. Of course if you have any questions you can always email us (Alex: (Krissy: Thanks, and we look forward to seeing you in September out on the east end.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Reminder: Make your Reservations!

Just a reminder that it's never too early to make your room reservations for our wedding weekend in Montauk!

The wedding invitations will be sent out by the end of the month but if you are planning on joining us for the weekend it is best to get your accommodations as soon as possible. Now that May is upon us, rooms will start disappearing quickly in the Hamptons. Vacationers will be enjoying the last days of summer and September is fishing season in Montauk. We are staying at the Oceanside Beach Resort and we would love to have most of the rooms filled with wedding guests. You can also check out our Accommodations post for other options.

As always, if you have any questions you can email Krissy at or Alex at We can't wait to see everyone in Montauk in September!

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Directions to Montauk

Airports in NYC and Long Island:
Flying into New York City you have two major options, Laguardia (LGA) and Kennedy (JFK) airports. They are both on Long Island but "up-island" near the city in different parts of Queens, a good two-and-a-half to three hour drive from Montauk and about a 30/45 minute cab ride from Manhattan. Halfway out on the island is Islip MacArthur Airport (ISP). Islip is definitely a smaller airport but may give some of you another option. Islip is about an hour-and-a-half drive from Montauk.

All airports offer car rentals and ultimately driving is your best option. We will offer transportation between Montauk Village and Gurney's for the wedding on Sunday but for the rest of the time to really see all that the east end has to offer you are going to be happiest to have your own set of wheels. The Long Island Railroad (LIRR) can be taken from the city east to Montauk but connecting from any of the above airports to the LIRR is not necessarily so easy. JFK offers an AirTrain service that gets you to Jamaica Station (the main hub of the LIRR) and you can take the Montauk branch out from there. Islip is only near the Ronkonkoma LIRR Station that does not offer train service out to Montauk. From Islip or Laguardia to a viable LIRR station you would have to take a cab and it can be costly. If you definitely want to avoid renting a car then taking a bus (Hampton Jitney) from any of the airports is an option, more train and bus info is below.

Directions by Car:
Montauk is approximately 120 miles from New York City. From New York City, Laguardia or JFK take the Long Island Expressway (I-495) Eastbound towards Eastern Long Island. Take exit #70 - CR111 (Manorville). Off the ramp turn right onto CR111 South, you will see most people are going the same way. Drive until it ends (about 4.6 miles). Make the left turn and merge onto Route 27 East. After roughly 15 miles or so 27-East becomes a smaller two lane road that continues through local villages all the way out to Montauk. You will pass the car dealerships in Southampton, come to an intersection and turn left to stay on 27. Continue through Watermill, Bridgehampton, Wainscott, East Hampton (where you will have to make another left turn to stay on 27 before the town pond), and Amagansett. After Amagansett you will be on a long sandy stretch (the Napeague Stretch) and you are almost there. To go straight to Montauk village stay on Montauk Hwy, Rte 27. If you are going to Gurney's or want the more curvy scenic route along the ocean then take Old Montauk Highway to the right when the road forks. Either way in a few miles congratulations! You have made your way to Montauk.

Directions by Train:
From New York City east the train option is the Long Island Railroad. Go to the LIRR website for all train info. From Penn Station in Manhattan the trip is about 3 hours and you will have to transfer in Jamaica. Jamaica is the LIRR hub where the Montauk branch originates so from the city, JFK airport or the outer boroughs of Brooklyn and Queens you inevitably go through Jamaica station. Only a couple trains a day typically go all the way out to Montauk so check timetable info for the day of the week you are considering. If possible buy train tickets from a machine or LIRR rep before boarding to avoid additional charges. The Montauk LIRR train station is north of Montauk Village so you will have to take a short cab ride to the motels in Montauk Village.

Directions by Bus:

A slightly more expensive option than the LIRR, the Hampton Jitney is the main Hamptons bus service that can take you from the eastside of Manhattan or neighboring airports right to the village of Montauk. Go to or give them a call at (631) 283-4600 to find out fares, schedules and specifics about airport connections.

Cab Services once in Montauk:
Lindy's Taxi - (631) 668-8888
Pink Tuna Taxi - (631) 668-3838

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

The Wedding Venue: Gurney's Inn

Our Sunday afternoon wedding and reception, including oceanfront ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner and dancing will take place at Gurney's Inn, Resort and Spa. Gurney's Inn is right on the Atlantic Ocean, nestled along the curvy Old Montauk Highway, a few miles west of Montauk village and a couple miles east of Hither Hills State Park. Gurney's facility is unbelievable, the staff so nice and professional, and the experience is Montauk at it's best. We know you are going to love it. Visit

How We Got to the 26th...

This little tale has more twists and turns than Old Montauk Highway itself!

First there was the Montauk Lake Club. Soon after getting engaged in January of 2009 we discovered this great little members-only club situated on the edge of Lake Montauk. We figured out an "in" and began chatting with the head chef and house manager, both of whom we got along with right away. The date was set, the venue seemed perfect, the food would be fabulous, so we began to spread the word.
Time passed and we had plenty of back and forth asking questions and getting answers from Mike and Matt. That was until early March of this year when we all of a sudden got an email from chef Mike stating that he and Matt had been laid off, most definitely. He had no idea who his replacement would be, or Matt's replacement for that matter, but he wished us all the best. Mind you these two were the only people at the MLC that knew anything about our proposed wedding. We tried to get in touch with the owner to ask what was going on, trying not to sound totally crazed but obviously concerned. To this date we have not heard from him.

So we scrambled to figure out "Plan B". The Montauk Lake Club is on East Lake Drive which dead ends at the water's edge and there you find a local seafood restaurant called the Inlet. Some friends raved about the food and the setting so we wondered if it might be a possible back up.
With their ample deck space, good-sized dining room and bar area we thought it might be tight but was definitely worth asking. The end of East Lake Drive is a town beach called Gin Beach and with the Inlet only hundreds of feet away we thought we might still be able to have a waterfront ceremony and fun reception all close together and easy for people to navigate.
So as soon as we had the news from Mike about the Lake Club we called the Inlet. A few conversations with a friendly staff member led us to believe that even though the restaurants capacity was smaller than our expected 110-120 guests they would be willing to work with us. Obviously we were in quite a bind and we felt the Inlet was really coming to our rescue so we were thrilled. We knew some aspects of the wedding reception would have to be changed but we were assured the Inlet wanted to try and help us out. They offered logical suggestions and for that we were greatly appreciative, not to mention we liked the idea of supporting a locally owned and operated business. Well, that was until we actually went out there and met with their "best of the best" house manager at the end of March, exactly six months away from our proposed wedding date. In the meeting we were introduced to a very different place, a place that really didn't care to work with us at all. For every suggestion I had discussed on the phone the house manager said tersely "no way". They couldn't accommodate our size group, there was no chance of dancing, and the idea of closing the restaurant for a private party on a Saturday in September was not at all something they were interested in doing. Somehow the meeting was over before it even began. Deflated we didn't know what to say or what to do so we left without so much as a "sorry we couldn't help you" or even a handshake. Crying and cursing the Inlet from their own parking lot we swore we would never eat there again. As it was we had spent a good amount of money on dinner (terribly overpriced sushi) the night before the meeting. Clearly we would come to regret that decision! We felt led along and now the rug had been pulled out from under us a second time. Talk about leaving a bad taste in our mouths.

For a minute we really thought our wedding was off. Completely baffled we realized there was one place we hadn't checked. Gurney's Inn has been around since the late 1920's, a seaside inn, resort, spa, and conference facility. Almost 100 years later it is still considered one of Long Island's most spectacular destinations. Because it is such an all-inclusive and luxurious operation we assumed right off the bat that a wedding there would be way out of our price range. Just the same we stopped in and asked for some wedding information. There we met Virginia "Ginny" Davis, a Gurney's employee of 30 years who now works solely in the wedding department. We explained our situation and Ginny was clearly astounded by the tragic turn of events. She asked about the possibility of moving the date to a Friday or Sunday since she knew there were no Saturdays free for a wedding in September. You see, when it comes to weddings at Gurney's the staff and facility are nothing less than top notch. They have many couples that book their Gurney's wedding years in advance so we realized we had to open up our thinking even more if we still wanted to pull off a date close to September 25th. Ginny sat and worked with us, listened to our needs and told us what she could offer, honestly, realistically, and professionally. It turned out that Gurney's could and would take care of everything for us and even better? ...within our budget. Following an amazing tour of their facility there was no question in our minds this was the perfect choice for our wedding. The one catch was that we would have to change the date to Sunday the 26th. With our notebook full of numbers and information and pamphlets we retreated home to the Feleppa house in East Hampton. A couple strong drinks were poured and we spent the night talking with our parents and thinking through it all. Considering how sensational the ceremony and reception promised to be we figured the date change was not the end of the world. (And we hope it's not for our guests!) The next day we woke and knew what we had to do. Without hesitation we raced back out to Montauk and tracked down Ginny. After discussing our latest list of questions, all of which she was able to answer with the same kindness, honesty and open mind, we all cheered, "let's go for it!" The best part was that Ginny seemed as excited as we were, and it was completely genuine. It is going to be the best. Without question we have made the right decision.

So here we are. We have a signed contract and now, finally, we have a wedding venue. YAY!
Until we are all together again, looking out over that awesome ocean, celebrating the brilliance of love, and partying our little hearts out,

Monday, March 29, 2010


Montauk has a lot of options. We visited as many places as we could so that we can offer you solid recommendations at a few different price points. All the motels we are suggesting are in the village of Montauk, a 5 minute drive from the wedding venue and near plenty of amenities (supermarket, food, drink, shopping, etc). Most require a 2-night minimum and there is nothing we can do about that. All rooms are on a first come first serve basis so please book as soon as you can! By the end of April rooms will begin to disappear fast because Montauk in September is bound to draw quite the crowd. Below is the full list of accommodations. Also feel free to visit the Montauk Chamber of Commerce website.

Our Hotel:
Rooms range from $125-$185, moderate by Montauk standards. Just over the dunes from the ocean, next to the local supermarket, and on the edge of Montauk village. Children under 10 stay free. Two night minimum does apply. The Saturday night welcome beach party will take place in the yard and on the adjacent beach (we hope). Efficiencies (kitchenettes) available. Mention "Feleppa/Dunkle" wedding.

Oceanside Beach Resort (A&K #1 Pick!)
626 Montauk Hwy
Montauk, NY 11954

Full Luxury:
Gurney's Inn is a Montauk tradition for offering everything at your fingertips: resort, spa, fine dining, amazing indoor pool, oceanfront location, and much more. This is also going to be our wedding venue where we will have everything from the ceremony to drinks, dinner and dancing. Due to the high demand for rooms at Gurney's Inn they only have availability from Sunday night onward. However, Gurney's will allow our guests to stay Sunday night only if they wish, avoiding the minimum most other places require. Rooms will be $225 for two people and include breakfast and spa and beach facilities. Mention "Dunkle" wedding. Range is $235+ for any other nights.

Gurney's Inn, Resort and Spa (Top 5 Pick!)
290 Old Montauk Hwy
Montauk, NY 11954

A Few Extra Dollars:
Rooms are $150 and up. Most have efficiencies. All close to or on the ocean. Places on Old Montauk Hwy are not in the village but a close 5-minute drive away.

Sole East Beach (Top 5 Pick!)
107 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954 (search for Sole East Beach NOT Sole East Resort)

Ocean Beach (Top 5 Pick!)
108 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

Burcliffe by the Sea
397 Old Montauk Hwy
Montauk, NY 11954

Moderate Montauk:
Room rates start at $120. In the village and near the ocean.

Born Free Motel
115 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

Ocean Surf Resort
84 S. Emerson Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

Cheap & Simple:
Rooms range from $80-$120. Stay two nights and the third is free so if you think three days is what you want this may be the best deal. In the village a couple blocks from the ocean. Mention "Dunkle" wedding.

Daunt's Albatross Motel (Top 5 Pick!)
44 S. Elmwood Avenue
Montauk, NY 11954

Ronjo Resort, where there have been rumors of scabies!
Royal Atlantic, where they require a 4-night minimum.